Kinky People Should Know
Mistress Matisse has written a column listing eighteen things kinky people should know. I’m particularly fond of these few:
10. Sorry, “dominant” does not equal “license to be an asshole.” All ordinary social conventions about good manners still apply to you.
11. Don’t announce, loudly and often, that you’d never, ever do kinky activity X because it’s so icky. The Higher Powers of BDSM have a sense of humor, and if they hear you, they will visit you with persistent erotic visions of that precise activity until you give in to it. Your merciless friends will take great pleasure in making you eat your words when you admit your new favorite kink. A gentle, “I don’t think that’s for me” is sufficient for most purposes.
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18. If your submissive takes a light smack on the butt as a cue to begin Primal Scream therapy, you should invest in gags. Lots of them.
I loved it! In particular, #8 should be required reading in many contexts beyond BDSM.
Brilliant reading and so true