BDSM For Nice Guys
I’d like to call this essay to your attention: Domination For Nice Guys.
Excerpt:
Things are not always what they seem; there’s a big difference between erotic pain and ordinary, garden-variety pain. The experience of pain in an erotic context, for someone who’s wired that way, is nothing like what you may imagine; it’s an incredible rush, that adds a powerful spice to sexual pleasure. Think of it like spice in chili; you might not like taking a bite out of a hot pepper, but in the right amount, it makes the chili a whole lot better…
Even things that look extreme, such as flogging or whipping, can be deceptive. These things don’t feel like you imagine they do, and in the right environment with the right warmup, they’re wonderful. And once your partner’s endorphins, the natural painkilling chemicals produced in the brain, get going, it’s the most intense, delightful high you can ever believe.
Ladies, might be very useful if your fellow has been a little reluctant about exploring your darker fantasies with you.
