An Homage To Dolcett
When I first got onto the internet and started downloading bondage pictures from UseNet, which feels like a very long time ago, one of the first depictions of actual bondage sex I found was this cartoon by Dolcett:
I didn’t much like the erotic asphyxiation aspect, and still don’t, but I thought the bondage sex position, and the idea of a rope to make sure the lady bobs up and down and does her fair share of the work, was pretty hot. So you can imagine my delight, lo these many years later, to spot an homage to this drawing in the latest shoot from Sex And Submission:
Much prettier with a real girl and a nice rope harness!
Elsewhere on Bondage Blog:
I LOVE the asphyxiation aspect of it and you’ve given me a great idea to present to the Boss. Yay! Thanks. :D
Kaya, I just beg you to be very careful. Erotic asphyxiation is one of the leading causes of sex-related death in this country. It’s very easy to screw up.
I’m suddenly curious as to what the *main* cause of sex-related death is. Anyone have statistics?
Not me, but I would expect it’s STDs and complications thereof. AIDs will be skewing the statistics for a long time to come.
Using a tie such as the one in the picture would actually be a relatively safe way to play with erotic asphyxiation, provided that the top uses a knot which can’t slip, such as a bowline or a figure-eight. The rope around the neck is a snug, fixed loop, so it doesn’t apply any pressure on the sub’s throat until the top pulls the rope through the suspended steel ring. Like many bdsm games, this activity isn’t dangerous in itself; it only claims lives when foolish or unprepared people do it wrong.
Chrispdm, it’s that “relatively” that gets me.
Experienced rope tops (not me, I’m not one) all say that any kind of pressure on the throat can lead to unexpected passing out. In fixed or solo bondage (which is where erotic asphyxiation routinely kills) the loss of consciousness can prolong whatever deprivation of air or blood triggered the loss of consciousness, leading swiftly to death.
With a concerned partner on the other end of the rope, obviously that’s less of a concern. But (and I’m speaking solely for myself and my beloved, here) “unexpected passing out” is too edgy for me. We don’t want any. (Picture a “Do not want!” LOLcats here.)
Sometimes it’s hard to revive people who pass out unexpectedly. Sometimes, you can’t revive them. Usually, there’s some other reason (medical condition) that nobody knew about.
Long term readers of this blog know that I am NOT a safety Nazi and I don’t have much time for them. It’s not my place to decide what’s “too dangerous” for other people. But some things are “too dangerous” for me. All I’m saying is “Please be careful!”
Ahh, that’s a good point. For some reason transmissable infections didn’t occur to me.
Cheers!
More specifically, AUTO-erotic asphyxiation is one of the leading causes. Do it with a partner, and the risks of death are significantly lessened. Don’t cut off all the air, and the risks are cut. Don’t do it with resistance, and the risks are cut. Don’t cut off the blood supply to the brain, and the risks are cut.
I’m not going to say that asphyxiation is safe, or even not very risky, or that it can’t kill you. But I’d much rather people who are going to do it anyways learn real information about how to play more responsibly, instead of only learning about how you might die.
You guys sure know your knots, don’t you?
This is an old post, but exactly what I was looking for. Same reason – this hot scenario without the neck rope. Will be sharing with a friend!